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But beyond these causes, I see the ultimate source of sexism in our misinterpretation of human nature at the time in our evolution when we developed consciousness.
But beyond these causes, I see the ultimate source of sexism in our misinterpretation of human nature at the time in our evolution when we developed consciousness.
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My journey back in time and across the earth in
search of the origin of sexism has tracked it down to a universal and literally
stone-age-old misinterpretation of human nature. It dates from and lived in a matriarchal social
order. Because we didn’t grasp that male and female, represented
by mind and instinct, make up the two halves of the psyche (and therefore are
two sides of the same thing), we fatally upset the balance between them. This
imbalance manifests first /was first implemented/fostered by the goddess religion‘s downplaying
of men’s role as fathers. It then continued to be upheld by the patriarchal
social order’s subsequent devaluation/oppression of women.
Snared in a
straitjacket of sin and guilt we learned--and have never since unlearned--that
the only thing entitling us to live a decent (if never happy) life is going
through, in one form or another, the ordeals of sacrifice, suffering and death.
As a result, the purpose of having a conscious mind/implications of consciousness/ never became clear to us and
As a result, the purpose of having a conscious mind/implications of consciousness/ never became clear to us and
A
major reason why we haven’t managed to build a more equitable society is, I
suggest, that both sexes apply an equally distorted view of the other. Patriarchy’s
sexism, or overt discrimination against women, has all the time been
counterbalanced by a reversed sexism, or covert discrimination against men.
Because the psyche is made up equally of a male and a female part/principle,
men and women exercise as much power in society. What happens if society
prevents one sex from wielding its power openly, is simply that it takes its
power underground where it works on sabotaging society’s professed goals.
Patriarchy reduced woman to the role of wife and mother and forced her to lead,
on the surface, a dull, voiceless and plantlike existence. Women’s power, which
could only be exercised through sex and motherhood, therefore developed in the
dark, where values antagonistic to the patriarchal ones could freely proliferate.
It is the unchallenged exercise of this hidden female power that provides men
with an ongoing incentive to wield coercive power over women, and this is how
the vicious circle of strife between the sexes keeps going. /shouldn’t this sum-up come earlier? At
start of Part III?/
*Although
the feminist movement has alerted us to the wrongs done to women and started to
correct them, we have so far ignored the wrongs done to men. But if our goal is
an equal society, we must look both sets of gender-biased attitudes squarely in
the eye and promptly admit that we all harbor them (though we have largely
repressed and rationalized them)--for only then do we have a chance to uproot
them. Modern psychology tells us we have to face our hidden emotions and re-experience
them before we can establish healthy relations with ourselves and others. But
this we must also do collectively. Society is like an individual who has never
worked out his relationship with his parents: it is still beholden to its
ancestors, i.e. to the values inherited from them, including its outlook on
man. Collectively we take on guilt for the trauma we once suffered, and, not
knowing any other way to get rid of it, we transfer our guilt to someone or
something in our present life that has nothing to do with our original trauma./I’ve said this before/ (continues on p. 161)
*If
we learn to see ourselves, or parts of ourselves, as evil we start hating it
and since what we hate is a part of ourselves, we become destructive. We can’t
eliminate aggression and anger, but we can learn to see them differently. We
must be friends with our aggression, it is a resource to tap into, to protect
human growth, a will to communicate. Be happy for your anger. Let it out,
understand it and canalize it, because it is only when you rationalize it away
that it will make you sadistic./
our
robust resources for battle and putting up, because it, which prevents us from
direct and rousing contact with each other. Battle is what we need because
there is no other way towards full status as human beings but to put up a fight
against the many obstacles that exist (the belief we have to be forced against
our will, reason, our whole arsenal of thought, will, feeling being one of the
worst) and eliminate them. Confrontation on all levels as a principle of life,
mutual exchange, as the hotbed/breeding ground/soil in which the human tree can
grow and ripen. Man as man’s rejoicing, his wellspring and creation.
I
think it is about time we realized that there is nothing holy or larger than
thou about any religion or philosophy; they are all products of the human mind
and more or less fallible. The reason we let them stand above us is that they
have always been upheld by worldly authorities whose vast physical powers have
scared us into silence. Yet now when we are so much freer, so much more able to
live with uncertainty and when nothing stops us from putting our trust in
ourselves, we are still lost. Judging from the catastrophic increase in
physical, psychosomatic and mental problems in the modern “godless” world, we
seem to lack the appropriate strength to make it without authorities and feel
neither safe nor capable enough on our own.
One of
the reasons, I suggest, is that we simply don’t know who we are. So busy have
we been following orders that we have never done our first duty, which is
exploring ourselves, learning to respect what our strongest drives are and to
carefully develop them. It is inside us that our motivations can be found and
it is them we should follow, not ideologies, philosophies or any norms that are
imposed on us from the outside, and which claim to be unchangeable.
For if
love, as I believe, is part of the instinct for self-preservation, we have a
bottomless need for love—and as much for giving it as for receiving it--in a
sense, we are destined to love each other. It is only when we can’t love
ourselves that we can’t love each other, and when we can’t satisfy this crucial
double need that we redirect its uncanny power towards destroying the very
things we do love: ourselves, each other, nature.
For us
love is, I suggest, an inborn pattern preparing us to act and react in a
“species-specific” way.
Most
important of all, let’s not forget that we choose our life. /Regardless of the
culture we live in and how we were brought up, as adults we are responsible for
how much of it we embrace and allow to influence us and how much of it we
discard and find substitutes for. By all means, let’s not/ So that we don’t
/get to the point when we/ say at the end of our life (as the man did in
Tolstoy’s novella The Death of Ivan Ilych), “What if my whole life has
been wrong?” But rather, with Henry David Thoreau, “If you advance confidently
in the direction . . . uncommon knowledge.”/something is missing here/
/Or,
as French writer Gustave Flaubert wrote in a letter to his friend and colleague
George Sand, “Spend! Be profligate! All great souls, that’s to say all good
ones, expend all their energies regardless of the cost. You must suffer and
enjoy, laugh, cry, love and work, in other words you must let every fiber of
your being thrill with life. That’s the meaning of being human, I think. . .”/
or else quote DHL/
I
suggest modern society as a whole has /indeed/ reached a crisis, tottering as
we are on the brink of self-annihilation as a
species—whether through nuclear, chemical and biological holocausts or through
environmental catastrophes such as the pollution of air, water, soil and
climate.